One day, your husband brings home another woman, saying, “I love you so much, honey, that I brought home another wife. We will share everything we have with her.” Flip the scenario if you’re a dad. You get the picture.
Sounds horrible, right? That’s how our children feel when we bring home a new baby. They bravely smile and agree to go along with the program. And there’s a part of them that truly grows to love the new baby. But you can’t blame them for being upset, too.
The early months are usually pretty uneventful. The squabbles begin when the new baby starts crawling and messing with your toddler’s toys. Your big kid’s noggin hasn’t developed the capacity for much patience, self-calming or sharing yet. It’s a recipe for screaming and hitting.
It’s devastating to see our children fight. But it’s an inescapable part of growing up. We can’t stop the fighting, but we can help our children master the jealousy, greed, and aggression underneath their skirmishes. Each fight is an opportunity for us to help them tame these tricky feelings – and ultimately, grow to be close allies.
Here’s what to do:
How do you handle sibling skirmishes in your home?